Libra Man & Cancer Woman = My Take After Watching This Incompatible Couple Gravitate Towards Each Other Again and Again

I've been a professional astrologer for many years (16, to be exact), and a marriage counselor for much longer than that. It goes without saying that I've counseled many couples, some of them entirely incompatible. Trust me, these are some of the most complex couples to deal with—but also the most rewarding to watch evolve once the process has gotten somewhere.

This is the case when a Libra man and a Cancer woman get together, which happens more than you would expect. From the get-go, you're confused by their distinct approaches to communication, as the elements of their zodiac signs are incompatible. Air (Libra) and water (Cancer) make for a weird combination that requires patience and deep translation skills. Let me explain this tedious but fascinating process.

Two (Very) Different Personalities

The hardest part of counseling these two is their communication styles. For example, this one couple, let's call them Brad and Jennifer, were incredibly different in their communication styles. Sweet and sometimes overly polite, Brad, the Libra man, found it easier to open up, answering my questions without much hesitation. He loved to elaborate on some of his points, which helped me understand any given situation they would be stuck in.

On the other side, Jennifer, the Cancer woman, had a completely different way of communicating. Getting her to answer my questions felt, at times, like an impossible mission to accomplish. Jeez…. When they first started seeing me, she was so closed off, I had to try many different approaches to the exact same question. She began trusting me more with time, but only after many sessions together.

This makes sense from the astrological viewpoint, however, as Cancer is the most self-protective zodiac sign. She had to make sure I was the correct person to counsel them, and once she had "figured me out," then she could open her heart. This was an important milestone for the three of us, as you don't want to only get one of their perspective. The Cancer guy loves to talk, and he can talk forever, but these sessions will go nowhere if he endlessly jumps out to respond to her.

Do you get this? This is one of the main reasons why this couple keeps on gravitating towards one another. The Libra man is the biggest people pleaser, he goes out of his way to help people. In this case, he is trying to help her answer the questions (even though he is not). And the Cancer woman takes it as "protection." When she is with him, she feels shielded from the outside world. She sees this as "true love," and in a way it is, but not when you're in couples counseling therapy.

What They Get From One Another

The most powerful energetic exchange between a Libra man and a Cancer woman is that she feels helped and protected by him. She is very emotional and sensitive, needing to be with someone like him, someone who naturally loves to make people happy. Any Libra man is sweet, generous, and giving, very giving. This is the type of guy who is an absolute gentleman; he brings you flowers, he opens the door for you, and he is incredibly patient. One of my female Cancer clients told me she made her Libra man wait over three months to have sex with him. She needed to make sure he was truly "the one for her," and he was happy to wait for her.

In return, the Cancer woman gives him all the attention and nurturance he craves and needs. Here—I'll tell you right away…. the Libra man is the epitome of the "arty boy." He's into art and fashion, and actually invests a lot of his time, energy, and money in looking sharp. He's the type of guy who is actually fun to go shopping with, as he follows all the trends. He's good-looking, well-mannered, and dresses well, and it's important for him that she notices all the effort he puts into himself. Overall, this is a constant between a Libra man and a Cancer woman; she feels respected and protected by him, and in return, she gives him all the attention and admiration he craves.

Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…

Something else that truly works well for this pair, for the most part, is decision-making. Libra is the sign of the scales, always measuring which of the two options is best… and trust me, this process can take forever! This is when the Cancer woman comes to the rescue! When he's having a hard time deciding between two options, she always knows which is the right way to go. She's smart and thrifty, helping his man make better decisions for his wallet.

Here's one anecdote about how decision-making works with this couple. Another Libra man-Cancer woman couple I worked with years ago had an interesting dynamic. Her family was wealthy, so she had inherited a good amount of money right around the time they got married. He had been a designer but wanted to stop seeing clients and instead open a home decor business where he could still showcase his skills while making money. While she had a career in business administration, her main interest in life was raising a family. They decided to invest their inherited money in the home decor store, which was mainly run by him, so she could remain a stay-at-home mom (they had three kids together).

She kept tabs on the business from afar, and anytime he struggled wth a financial (or basically, any) decision, she would step in. Her careful and conservative approach to finances was something he lacked, as he naturally gravitated to the most expensive option. Their kids are now teenagers, and their business has expanded to a total of five stores, so this arrangement has definitely worked.

Their Biggest Problem

The biggest problem for a Libra man and a Cancer woman is their distinct approach to social life. Think about it this way: Libra is ruled by Venus, the planet of pleasure, art, and friendship. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, the planet of emotions, home, and family. He is a social butterfly, so when he's not with her, he's spending time with his colleagues and pals, jumping from an artsy event to the next dinner party. She's the total opposite; she's a homebody and not that interested in meeting new people. Remember, she takes a while to open up to new faces, which is the reason why she mostly socializes with the same group of friends she's had for years.

This is where these two clash the most. The Libra man is a socialite, needing to get out more, as being around people inspires him. He likes to go to museums, events, and doesn't particularly like RSVPing no. The Cancer woman loves to stay home, watching movies, practicing self-care, and spending time with the family or closest friends. She will some of her precious time to accommodate him, but when she's not feeling up for it, nothing will get her to change her mind.

For this couple to work out in the long run, they will have to accommodate one another. The Libra guy will have to enjoy staying home more, and the Libra woman will have to get out of her house more. The great news is that he's great at this balancing act. Because the truth is that whenever these two fight, she is the one who wins. The Cancer woman is the ultimate nurturer, but she's also kind of moody, and when she gets mad, no one wins. This is when his people-pleasing skills come in handy for their relationship. Whenever there is disagreement, she gets the last and final word.

Let's Talk About Sex, Baby

By now, you must be wondering… what about their sex life? Well, sex between a Cancer woman and a Libra man can be described as sweet and very emotional. While this is not the kinkiest couple, they do enjoy having sex with one another, as this is when they reach a very deep level of intimacy. He is a sweet, caring lover who will never push her boundaries, always treating her with respect. She shows him emotional depths he's never been exposed to, creating the space for him to get more in touch with his feelings.

One of my besties, a Cancer woman who has been dating a Libra man for over five years, shared with me that this is when she feels the most comfortable with him. She particularly loves the after-sex conversations, as this is when his "social mask" drops, allowing her to go into his psyche and his heart. These are the times when he would talk about his past, his dreams, and his true thoughts about life.

Bottom Line

While these two might seem very different at first, their energies can be complementary in more ways than one. If they are able to balance their very distinct ways of approaching the world, their relationship can thrive. What unites them the most is an authentic desire to nurture one another, even if they showcase it in different ways.

Bottom line, this is one of the sweetest couples you can find—perhaps because of the Moon-Venus connection, which helps them create a relationship based on trust, instinct, and mutual emotional nurturance.